๐๐จ๐ซ๐ค๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ฆ๐จ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ซ๐ฌ ๐๐ซ๐๐งโ๐ญ ๐ฌ๐๐ฅ๐๐ข๐ฌ๐ก ๐จ๐ซ ๐ฎ๐ง๐๐๐ซ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ฆ๐จ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ซ๐ฌ ๐ฌ๐จ ๐ฌ๐ญ๐จ๐ฉ ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐ฆ๐จ๐ซ๐๐ฅ ๐๐๐ฌ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐ & ๐ฎ๐ง๐ฐ๐๐ง๐ญ๐๐ ๐ฃ๐ฎ๐๐ ๐๐ฆ๐๐ง๐ญ
The underlying deep rooted conditioning that women canโt have needs or wants beyond their duties as nurturers & caregivers of family.
The persistent conditioning right from the time a girl is born, teaching her that she is supposed to be a selfless being. And that motherhood is the pinnacle of all that a woman is supposed to strive for.
This messaging of a selfless woman is ingrained deep into our culture & it keeps getting portrayed over & over. Itโs voiced down in the way stories are told, the way elders pass on their learnings. Itโs in the way women are appreciated, put on pedestals for being superwomen managing all, taking care of everyone. So much so that mom guilt is a very real pain for mothers.
Unfortunately such lofty expectations are further ingrained by the media & marketing messages around us.
I recently saw an advertisement of an delivery app/ company which has a mother saying she has a small child so stepping out, leaving the child at home, apparently you donโt want to do that. You donโt want to leave child at home. I mean really?
A mother doesnโt want to leave the house because she has a baby! Is she supposed to live out all her remaining days inside the house then!
Itโs wasnโt so much about the concept of ease of delivery at home but rather the way the message was worded & delivered that irked me. It may not have been intentional but even unknowingly this is how it keeps getting cultivated & promotional content should be better directed. Not further help create an unrealistic imagery of this mother who takes care of everything & doesnโt even want to leave her house for the baby!
It irritates me because being a mother who steps out for work leaving her child at home/ daycare, I have faced this judgement various times. From relatives calling my son ‘bechara’ to being worried about how he must be missing out on mother’s love because I choose to spend some hours away from him, taking care of other things!
Stop this conditioning
#women #motherhood #sareelove
