๐–๐จ๐ซ๐ค๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ฆ๐จ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ซ๐ฌ ๐š๐ซ๐ž๐งโ€™๐ญ ๐ฌ๐ž๐ฅ๐Ÿ๐ข๐ฌ๐ก ๐จ๐ซ ๐ฎ๐ง๐œ๐š๐ซ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ฆ๐จ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ซ๐ฌ ๐ฌ๐จ ๐ฌ๐ญ๐จ๐ฉ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ฆ๐จ๐ซ๐š๐ฅ ๐›๐š๐ฌ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐  & ๐ฎ๐ง๐ฐ๐š๐ง๐ญ๐ž๐ ๐ฃ๐ฎ๐๐ ๐ž๐ฆ๐ž๐ง๐ญ

The underlying deep rooted conditioning that women canโ€™t have needs or wants beyond their duties as nurturers & caregivers of family.

The persistent conditioning right from the time a girl is born, teaching her that she is supposed to be a selfless being. And that motherhood is the pinnacle of all that a woman is supposed to strive for.

This messaging of a selfless woman is ingrained deep into our culture & it keeps getting portrayed over & over. Itโ€™s voiced down in the way stories are told, the way elders pass on their learnings. Itโ€™s in the way women are appreciated, put on pedestals for being superwomen managing all, taking care of everyone. So much so that mom guilt is a very real pain for mothers.

Unfortunately such lofty expectations are further ingrained by the media & marketing messages around us.

I recently saw an advertisement of an delivery app/ company which has a mother saying she has a small child so stepping out, leaving the child at home, apparently you donโ€™t want to do that. You donโ€™t want to leave child at home. I mean really?

A mother doesnโ€™t want to leave the house because she has a baby! Is she supposed to live out all her remaining days inside the house then!


Itโ€™s wasnโ€™t so much about the concept of ease of delivery at home but rather the way the message was worded & delivered that irked me. It may not have been intentional but even unknowingly this is how it keeps getting cultivated & promotional content should be better directed. Not further help create an unrealistic imagery of this mother who takes care of everything & doesnโ€™t even want to leave her house for the baby!

It irritates me because being a mother who steps out for work leaving her child at home/ daycare, I have faced this judgement various times. From relatives calling my son ‘bechara’ to being worried about how he must be missing out on mother’s love because I choose to spend some hours away from him, taking care of other things!

Stop this conditioning

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