Happy Women’s day Girls and here’s hoping for us all, that each one of us gets the respect and love that we deserve. Not as a Gift but as a right. We deserve to be respected. Let’s not say that we are lucky if we get it and make it sound abnormal. It is normal to be respected and EVERY woman should have that; irrespective of caste, creed, position, background or behaviour.
As you all know I am a full time working mom. My son spends his day at daycare so that I can go live my dreams. Am I sorry for it? NOPE. Do I feel guilty? YES, ( try as I might to stop it, mom guilt does creep in) Am I doing it as a sacrifice for his better future? NOPE. I am doing it for myself and nobody else. Because I want to. Every woman should be able to do what she wants to do, not what others want her to.
And I have a family who supports it fully; in every way possible. Am I lucky? NOPE. I just have a very normal and sensible family, Who treat me the same way that they will treat a man. Nothing more nothing less.
I am me and that is the result of my family’s support and love everyday. I am not a superwoman , I am an average person in every way possible. I have average capabilities and average strength and sense. I manage. AND i have a LOT of help in doing all this. I delegate too. I have a cook and though I love cooking I do not prepare lavish meals for my son and hubby everyday. And when I do, like a normal person (an old one), My back hurts and I fall down on the bed like a log. My hubby isn’t superman either, he just loves me; he fumbles and flounders like me but together we somehow manage. Some great days, and some totally shitty ones. He doesn’t ‘help’ me; he shares the work. I run on my way back from office to pick up my son, I multitask, I fail to get the laundry done on time many times, I cook 5 course dinners, My fridge doesn’t have any vegetables left on some days, I behave like a lazy bum some days, I achieve, I fail, I laugh hard, I cry harder.
I don’t understand the quotes which say, Women need to be strong, they should be able to manage everything. Because I really can’t manage everything on my own. As I said I am a very average woman and not Wonder Woman; (don’t have the body for it either ?) and average women need support, tons of it. My parents, who never told me that a boy and a girl are different, supported me in my journey of motherhood too. Yeah! they locked up their house and came and stayed with me for a whole year so that I may be able to go to work 3 months post partum and could continue to stay alone in Bangalore while Animesh was in Gurgaon. So all I want to stay on this Woman’s day is that just give the women in your life and the women in every walk of life, the support that you will give to a man. Because many of us are average women who can’t achieve everything on their own. Don’t expect us to. Some of us need the support and help, just the basic bit will do. And here is a pic of my gubloo boo on his first New Years party with his Nani