We had a staggered anniversary celebrations all throughout last week. Thanks to those of you who knew or came to know from some of my Instagram stories & wished us ☺️.
For the anniversary dinner I booked a canopy seating candle lite dinner for 2, at, (as many of you rightly guessed); the Sevilla at Claridges Resorts & hotels.
Check the pictures and stories on my Instagram page Anniversary celebrations
It is undoubtedly one of the most romantic places in Delhi, don’t you think? I highly recommend it if you are looking for a romantic time.
This brings me to the #happymondayrevolution post that I do every Monday. Here’s my thought for today.
Do you make conscious efforts to keep the spark alive in your marriage?
Assuming that you have a loving, understanding relationship with your spouse or life partner. Do you make extra efforts to ensure that it is more than a relationship where you both care for each other?
I will tell you about us, this is again only my view point & how we live. It’s not a mandate or an advice I am trying to dish out. So pls take it with a bit of chill factor ☺️. Trust me, like most of us, we are also learning everyday about adjustments, responsibilities & sharing happiness. We are nowhere near to a perfect couple & as easy it was during courtship days. Leading a married life & nurturing a family takes efforts & work. And if by God’s grace you are lucky enough to find a partnership where you care about each other. Then I would say put in some work too.
Don’t forget the importance of your better half
Many a times, we tend to forget the importance of our better half & start taking things for granted. Having kids further increases the complacency that we build towards our 💖 life.
Complacency is a killer
We can’t be blamed either; neither party. I mean common with the daily rush of work, home, kids & kitchen, who has the time? Add to that the bills which keep getting bigger & bigger. And the sleep hours getting lesser & lesser as we grow!
It’s easy to forget the love
It’s easy to forget the small small reasons because of which you fell in love the first times. It’s easy to start taking things for granted as you get busy with day to day life. You don’t actually forget the first moments of falling in love, that feeling of light headedness and increased heart beats. But it just gets pushed aside in the daily run of life. But as it is a relationship most important to you, shouldn’t you put into it at least a bit of the efforts that you put in other things?
Take the steps
So make the effort, if not them, then you take the initiative. Make the efforts & sweep them off their feet. We spent a few hours at this beautiful place, & we were able to connect so much again.
Book the date, buy the gift
Plan the extravagant date if you can manage to do that. Go ahead, buy that gift. (Keep your ears open ladies; men are always talking about their fav gadget/ phone, just buy that).
It’s not always only about the big things
So yes taking the big steps and the grand gestures is a great way to keep the spark alive but it may not always be possible. So then what? Is it only about date nights planned elaborately or expensive gifts to each other? No, not necessarily. Taking time out for each other can also mean a late night movie at home together with a pizza and a glass of wine. It may not be always feasible to find a baby sitter and go out to fancy dinners. For us, it’s a rarity in fact yo go out without the baby but that doesn’t mean that we can’t have a date night at home. Watch a movie together after putting the kids to bed.
Let the kids have dinner early and put them to bed and then lay out your dinner. Whether you cook a fancy meal for you two or just ordered it in, just light a candle and turn the electric lights low. It doesn’t need to be that hard.
Don’t forget the small things
Often we are so taken up with the notion of how a particular thing should be in our head that we fail to notice the other things. We may keep pining for a grand gesture of romance while totally overlooking the small things our partners do for us which really show they care. My husband doesn’t bring me as many flowers as he used to when we used to date. But he brings me my morning cup of tea everyday to me.
Appreciate the care and love
Don’t overlook the things that your loved one does for you to ensure that you are happy and your life is easier. It’s their way of showing that they care and they really do.
Say the Love Yous
This I can’t stress enough. Say I love you to each other as much as you can. This shouldn’t stop even if you get older and relaxed about your relationship. Hearing that we are loved is always a happy thing. And it doesn’t take any extra effort. So express your love to your partner as much as you can. Share the hugs and the kisses daily. Send a text saying I love you when you are afar. It’s a small thing but it sure helps to keep the spark alive.
So yes take the time out and make the effort, sometimes at least. After all, we are all living for the ones we love.
Until next time,
Keep loving 🥰 Smita